No sos tímido, sos un egoista.

Well, I need us to all get on topic because I'm already a little tired of this situation and...

I'm going to simplify it, so I stop drinking coffee with people for this topic and I open it, I open this topic a good time. The following results, I put them a little in context, I just got to drink a coffee with a boy that I knew by name because they had named me several times, a friend of mine introduces him to me, that is, he makes me or gives me this meeting, he asks me for this favor to meet with this guy, this guy, accountant, painter, hair, kind of blond, like that for a

The truth is that 10 points, the guy, a phenomenon, I mean, I liked him, I know that the guy works very well, I know that the guy has a lot of super important clients, and he wanted to join me for the issue of the transition from the professional to the professional of networks. Well, I said yes, no problem, I know this friend of mine for many years, I always do favors to his friends, it seems to me that it was not difficult for me to have a coffee with the guy. It turns out that I get there, the guy begins to explain to me, begins to tell me, I don't know what, but he says to me, but I am very shy.

Bueno.

Let's go by parts. You are not shy, you are selfish. Which is what I really want to tell you if you are on the other side and you think that "Oh no, I am shy and that's why I have a hard time showing up on social media and I have a hard time showing my work and I have a hard time showing my service." I want to tell you something. If that happens to you, you are coming from the river of selfishness. That is, selfishness is a great river that passes and you are one of the branches. That is, shyness is always one of the branches of selfishness. And never forget this.

Never forget, and I tell you as a communication teacher, whenever we talk about shyness, it has to do with an excess of egoism. What is egoism then? Egoism is believing that one is the center of the universe. Everything revolves around you. I want to tell you something as clearly as possible. You suck an egg from everyone. What you do or stop doing doesn't matter to anyone but you.

And if you don't want to show yourself on the networks to have a bigger audience, so you're interested in that, or if you don't want to go out to sell yourself, or if you don't want to have a conversation with an important client, or if you don't dare to go to an important company, it's not just that you don't know the basic communication issues that you have to know to face these situations, like for example the sale, like for example the negotiation, like for example the leadership, like for example the management of networks, but besides all that, you think that everyone will be talking about you as if you were the damn Lionel Messi.

And you are not Lionel Messi. And I am not Lionel Messi either. And once you understand that, something incredible happens that is absurdly liberating. You free yourself from the burden of what they are going to think, of what they are going to say, if you can do it, if you can't do it.

This situation is crazy, but nowadays we live in a world where everyone thinks they are the center of the universe. And they all go looking through the window saying "Oh my gosh, I'm the fucking protagonist of a video of the Ducky singing to Mary." Nobody cares about your life.

But I'm telling you this with the best of my knowledge, nobody cares what you do, how much you develop, how much you put in the effort, who can be bothered? Are you going to let people like your group of friends, because of the bullshit that now this one is the influencer, now this one is making content, now this one is being a coda with the people, are you going to let those comments affect who you came to be?

Let me tell you with all the love of the world, that I think you are making a mistake, you are making a firm mistake. Because you are absorbing other people's fears, you are making them your own and you are not allowing to develop your maximum potential because there are people who think that I don't have to make content. You know what the teachers told me? Not from the university where I teach, they sent me mails. There was a teacher, I don't forget it anymore, I have already mentioned her in several videos, she sent me an email telling me how they laughed at my videos in the teachers' room.

What do I do? Oh no, no... You know what the problem is? You care too much about yourself. Even when you are going to expose yourself, you are thinking: "Oh no, what are they going to think of me?" Stop thinking about yourself, dude. Stop thinking about yourself. Don't do it anymore.

Nobody cares. You're the only one who cares about that. Nobody cares what people will laugh at you for, like they did with me in that teachers' room. "Oh no, what an academic teacher, he's going to be uploading content..." Who do you think they're thinking of me all the time? I'm not that important to the lives of others. And I repeat, we have to do what we're told to do, because that's what it's all about. And if you're a shy person and you don't know how to get out of shyness, I'm going to tell you how to do it.

You have to see if you dare to do it later, because obviously you are very comfortable in that situation where "Oh no, everything revolves around me, everything seems to me that everyone is looking at me, I am number one on planet earth" Dude, if you have your hair settled, not having your hair settled, obviously you pass a public image, I am the first one who tells you, but you have to think about that until you start doing what you came to do and then you forget about yourself. If I'm here making a video thinking that this video will be seen by 10,000 people, I don't know how many people are going to enter here,

If I'm thinking about what those 10,000 people are going to think of me, I'm being selfish. So what am I doing? I'm giving myself with the greatest possible tools so that you understand the message, so that you can say, "Hey, man, enough of suffering this situation. I want to stop breaking my balls with the shyness, that I don't know what they're going to think of me." I'm giving myself here to you, who are on the other side. Or in this case, as I just did with the boy, to the accountant who was with me having a coffee. I'm not in the center of the universe.

If you don't learn to get out of the center of the universe, you're still that 4, 5, 6 year old creature that didn't know how to get out and that was selfish because selfishness comes from not being able to put other people in the center of your universe for at least a while.

And maturity comes in giving that center of your life to another person and then taking it back. Because that communication appears there, both external and internal. I, for this moment, am going to give you the center of my attention, I am going to give you the center of my life. Or do you think that everyone gives you the center of their life? Don't be an illusion or don't be an illusion. That doesn't happen.

How long do you think people will talk about you, about what you decide to do? How long? Really, do the exercise. How many times are you at home, you see something on the networks or you see something, "Hey, look at this, what he does, hey, there's Milanese today." Ready. What are you going to stop doing all your, what you had to do because there is a person who for two seconds in his day said, "Hey, man, let's see what you think." Leave, I mean, what are you doing?

Nowadays there's a world that the only thing that makes me think "Oh no, how do I look?" I have here, here I'm looking at myself, I have the camera, the return, I have it here How many times do you see me looking at myself? I'm not here, the only thing I have is this to know if I'm recording, that it's going 7 minutes and 5 seconds Because what interests me here is you, you're you, try to record yourself with the phone, do this exercise, try to record yourself and not look at yourself Look at the little camera

Why? Because the attention has to be on the other, not on you.

That's the way to communicate and that's the way to get out of shyness once and for all. There are a million tools, there are a million things that I can tell you when your mouth dries, when your belly hurts, when your ideas go away, when you stay blank, when your heart beats very hard, when your voice gets hoarse, when your throat gets stuck. There are a lot of tools for that. Those are how to control the symptoms of nervousness. But shyness is something else, dude. Nobody cares what you're doing with your life.

And in the worst case, if suddenly everyone cares about you, if everyone is talking about you, in 100 years you won't exist, nor will I exist, nor will probably nobody exist from what we are now. So stop thinking about others, you can't be living the life that others want you to live. Live the life that you want and make mistakes. And if you make a mistake, make a video, say a joke, say a nonsense. I can tell you, I have more than 1,500 videos in total here.

I said: "200,000? That's a lot!" I don't know if you remember, but at one point I had 40,000 people in my live stream. And I got it with a person who was writing to me. I sent it to Freddy Churro, I went to the newspapers. Who of you remember that situation? You know what happens? We believe we are the center of the universe and we have to learn to get out of there if we want to develop our communication.

Stop thinking that everyone will be thinking about you, that how you look, that nobody cares if you have your hair well combed or not. Go to the bathroom, you adjust your hair as it corresponds, as I did before starting. Hey, I'm fine, I look good, shirt is fine, the bag is fine, yes, ready to shit. If now suddenly I spit and I have a little thing here, I'm not going to be looking at myself all the time to see if the little thing is seen. That's it, what do you want me to do? I'm human, when I spit sometimes I have a little saliva here. It's what there is. I'm this.

And that's how you also get rid of those unbearable loads of bags. And I'm going to give you a practical exercise, which is the same one I told this guy, this accountant, who is a divine, I'm sure he's going to watch this video. Put people in the center of your life. Oh, and how do I do that? Get in a taxi, ask the guy who is in the taxi how he is and listen.

"Oh, no, but I don't like being in the taxi because it's my moment of relaxation." "Of course, dude, because the only thing you do is think about yourself." "Oh, no, but listening actively, teacher, I already heard you say that it is a conscious effort, so I'm trying to be someone I don't care about." "Of course, dude, because the only thing you care about is yourself." So, do you realize how shyness and selfishness go hand in hand?

That's where we have to break the question. Stop thinking about yourself, about being all the time in the center of the universe that people are looking at, that people don't care, nobody cares what you do. Again, neither what you do, nor what I do, nor what anyone else does. Do what you think you came to do. Try to develop yourself to your maximum potential. Learn all the necessary tools to go out there and eat the world in case you want to do it.

But stop blaming him. No, because what are they going to think? The accounting school? What do you care, friend? What do you care? Logically, if you want to improve this, you can do a lot of things. Between them, you're going to see that you're not going to do it, but between them I prepared a class on how to control the symptoms of shyness or the symptoms of nervousness.

These things I told you before, "I have a stomachache, I don't know what to do" What happens when those nerves appear, those intrusive thoughts, what to do? I'm going to leave it down here, you're going to see the few people who are going to do it Because they're going to think, "Oh no, because actually I don't know if I agree with that" And they're going to start with those comments, "I don't know if I can because actually I have..." And then we start to prioritize the urgent over the important And the important thing is actually what is going to bring us closer to where we have to be

It has to do with purpose and essence. Always going up is more difficult. That's why I know that listening to the taxi driver is a complicated exercise. Do it if you want to go up. Because if not, stay in the center of the universe. And well, this is where I come to. This is where my intervention comes to. If you want to continue, no, because in reality I don't care about the life of the street barman. Because I'm a very busy person. Well, dude, do whatever you want. I don't know. Do literally what you feel like. That's it. I tried it. Do whatever you want.

Te mando un abrazo. Y te dejo la clase acá abajo por si la querías hacer. Chau.